Coming Out


My brave daughter, Brae, just recently came out publicly that she is gay.  While it was not a surprise to me, it was a very powerful and pivotal moment in her life, as well as in mine.  Even though nothing outwardly has changed, the energy in the house is lighter.  Her eyes are shining more clearly, her flesh hangs more easily on her bones and her smile is a whole lot brighter. A true testament to a soul living her Truth.

Her stepping out has inspired me to look at the myriad of ways that I have hidden myself, both personally and professionally.  I am an introvert with extrovert tendencies.  My quietly observant personality, along with the “you are just a girl - stay quiet and look pretty, and all will be taken care of”, patriarchal messaging that I received growing up, has kept me hidden behind a cloak of invisibility in most areas of my life up to this point.

As I turn the corner on 50 years of living, I am finally coming to see through the veils of distortion -- revealing the truth of my purpose on this planet.  As I become more public through my private practice, teaching and facilitating community events, I am called to embody a confidence that, for most of my life, evaded me.  I feel myself stretching and growing in ways that are literally pushing me through the birth canal of my own becoming. It is exhausting, liberating, sometimes terrifying and profoundly enlivening all at the same time.  

I have been writing stories of my experience with all manner of death and rebirth that serve to capture the light in the midst of dark and difficult times.  This has become my life’s work, as well as the crucible of my own becoming.  I look forward to sharing with you as I begin to “come out” more and more through various channels – this blog being one.  My hope is that you may find resonance, and perhaps solace, through the gift of story, knowing that we are all so deeply connected on this journey of being human.  

So, even amidst the grace and difficulties that have been visiting our family’s doorstep as of late, this house is shining much brighter with the authentic truth of “Coming Out”.

How are you feeling inspired to come out to the world with your authentic self?

May we each dare to spark our candles of truth inside to shine more light into the world.

“We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.”